On being … not missed

By Ingrid Sapona

I was at the drive through at a Tim Horton’s the other day. The coffee I ordered cost $2.01. Without a thought, I handed the person at the window a $5. I was kind of surprised at how long it took for her to make change, but when she handed it to me, I realized why. I got $2 in bills and 99¢ in coins. Ugh – all that change.

I was expecting $3 back – but then I realized I was in the US. Here in Canada we no longer use pennies. We did away with them in 2013. To be honest, I didn’t realize it was that long ago, but I just looked it up. In 2012, when the Finance Minister announced we’d be phasing pennies out, I distinctly remember being convinced it was a bad idea.

I thought that doing away with the penny would start prices creeping up. Things that used to cost, say, $2.97 at Walmart (they’re big on prices ending in 7s) would, I figured, immediately increase to $3. Once that happened, I reckoned we’d soon see the demise of other coins and businesses rounding prices up accordingly.

But all that hasn’t happened. My Tim Horton’s coffee that costs $1.81 here in Canada is still $1.81. The only difference is that when you pay – or make change – you simply round the penny amounts up or down. So, when I handed her the $5, I expected to get $3 back – not a handful of coins and a dose of irritation.

As I drove away, I thought about the irrationality of my petty annoyance. I soon figured out that underlying my reaction was the fact that, not only have I adjusted to not using pennies, I’ve moved on to the point of definitely not missing them.

As soon as I realized that, I also understood what emotional trigger was really at play. You see, we’re just starting the process of downsizing my mom’s household. After more than five decades in the house I grew up in, the house is filled with stuff – and memories associated with many items.

Though – or perhaps, because – we’re in the nascent stage of this endeavor, I’ve tried to take a project management approach. I’ve started by breaking it down into different types of tasks. For example, upstairs I thought I’d go closet-by-closet. With the basement – the repository of things that weren’t put to regular use, not to mention a bunch of things that haven’t been touched in 40+ years – I’ve begun by separating out things that are relatively easy to donate, like clothes and books.

I’ve also begun asking friends and others for suggestions about other ways of clearing out things – short of 1-800-Got Junk. I’ve gotten some good ideas (check out The Freecycle Network, for example) and referrals to estate-type agents that will all come in handy.

But, before we get to any of those, we have a lot of sorting to do. There are a few things in the house that I – or my sisters – have a real connection to, for whatever reason. Those things I’m sure Mom will give her blessing to us to take to our own (already full) homes. Beyond those things, however, there are also a bunch of things that, though not cherished, have some sentimental value – in some cases simply because they’ve been in the family for a long time. For me, those items are much harder to deal with…

This is where my epiphany about the penny comes in. As I go through things in the house, I’m going to try to see them like pennies – objects that have value and that served us well but that will not be truly missed once they are gone.
© 2017 Ingrid Sapona


On being … a nostalgic look back?

By Ingrid Sapona

Hard to believe the Trump presidency is less than a month old, isn’t it? From January 1 through the inauguration on the 20th, I made note of some of the terms I read or heard others use to describe him. (Even in Mexico it was impossible to escape the news of the impending inauguration.) It was an interesting exercise then and reflecting on these descriptions is perhaps even more interesting now.

So, here are some of the words. You’ll note that there are some letters missing (Y and Z, for example) – but, there are so many multiples for some letters (see C, for example), the descriptors more than cover the alphabet.

Keep in mind, these are ways others (journalists and public figures, like George Soros) used to describe him or what they thought his presidency will bring:

A is for: angry; autocrat; acrimonious
B is for: bully; bigoted
C is for: combative; contradictory; contempt; crass; circus, conflict of interest
D is for: disparagement, demonization; disorganized
E is for: erratic
F is for: fact-challenged; flippant
G is for: golden rain (if you don’t know what this is a reference to, don’t feel bad… honestly, it’s just as well …)
H is for: humiliation; hostile
I is for: inflammatory, intemperate; imposter; intimidating; insulting
L is for: lacking filters
M is for: menacing; mocking; master showman
N is for: nasty
O is for: ostentatious
P is for: petty; phoney
R is for: ridiculous
S is for: self-aggrandizing; show biz; science denialist; scorched earth
T is for: tyrant; thin-skinned; temper-tantrum
U is for: unpredictable; unhinged; unpresidential
V is for: volatile; vitriol
X is for: xenophobic

I don’t know about you, but these aren’t exactly the words I’d be looking for in the resume of – or terms I’d expect to see in a recommendation letter of – my ideal candidate for President.

Post Script: As I wrote this, I wondered if some of my readers might have found some of these descriptors harsh, or unfair, or merely sentiments of those whose opinions one might expect reported on by the “liberal media”.  Well, now that we’re just over three weeks into Trumps 208 week (first?) term, I have to say that I think these descriptors are definitely on point – and if anything, perhaps even on the polite side.

One last thing: I promise that I’ll return to a traditional essay format – I won’t be turning On being… into a column of alphabetical lists.

© 2017 Ingrid Sapona